This blog was originally supposed to be all about trying to uncover and explain why young girls (and women) are so often overlooked in the ASD community, (specifically when it comes to a proper diagnosis of Asperger’s and/or ADHD) and how detrimental that can be to their present and their futures. It has evolved.
This blog is now about Asperger’s, ADHD, BPD, GAD, MDD, Celiac and Type 1 Diabetes and anything else that might come up. This blog is about my family. The nitty gritty stuff that might actually help others to understand the above conditions better, or at least the stuff that might just give you pause to relate. This blog is about me desperately trying to keep my ever waning sanity while raising the fantastic four (not at all related to or associated with Marvel Comics).
Mother of 2 girls and 2 boys, I call them:
#1. ‘Pups’ the eldest.
#2. ‘Bean’ Second eldest
#3. ‘Bear’ The third
#4. ‘Tig’ Youngest
>Please note that these are not their actual names, but that really is their order of birth<
My partner, who shall simply go as “Hub”, is a laid back easy going guy. The exact opposite of me.
My name is Kate. What I am is a highly energetic person with about as many faults as I have good intentions. Recently diagnozed with ADHD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder “Traits”, I have only just begun to start understanding myself as an individual.
Myself a child of a family strewn with many different types of mental conditions (Asperger’s, Schizophrenia, Paranoid Schizophrenia, ADD, ADHD, Deppresion… – would you like some fries with that?), I struggle to find the balance in what can be/is often considered a “label/condition/disorder/illness/curse” and what may simply be just another part of ones self. As a mother I struggle with raising my kids the right way and helping Bean find her way in the World a little (if not a lot) better than I did.
Life and struggles are often as hard and honest as they are funny and cringe worthy. Consider this a potential learning experience/black comedy.
Take note: I am not apologetic.
Many thanks to:
My kids and the Hub for being so fantastic.
Ilya Green’s fantastic book “Marre Du Rose” helped Bean to appreciate her differences all the more. Ilya’s beautiful illustrations (many seen here on this blog) seem to grasp so perfectly and accurately what I’m saying. I cannot wait to read more by her.
To the “unaware bloggers”:
who have so wonderfully inspired me to write about my journey through our life with Asperger’s and hope that, if nothing else, more knowledge is gained about how differently Autism Spectrum Disorders affect girls. Thank you. I hope that I can inspire others to speak up about how important it is that we stop ignoring or dismissing the signs that a young girl, or even older woman (and anything in between) may very well need your acknowledgment that she has an ASD. That she is in fact “different”. As Temple Grandin so eloquently put it:
“Different, not less”.